COMMUNICATION

Actually, I am bad at communication.

“The biggest problem for humanity, not only on a global level, but even for individuals, is misunderstanding.” ~Rinpoche

College life has taught me how to communicate with different persons every single day. Sometimes there are some of them who are the ambitious type having conversation to reply only or just to show their existence. I can't blame it because it depends on their personality traits. Some of them who are the calm type just give less verbal communication because they said to me it's hard to express their emotion or feelings. The worst is people who are trying to make missunderstanding when speak.

People said I am a fussy or maybe talkative person. Fussy person is used to related with good communiation skill.  I just smiled because they don't know what inside me is. It was just another side of mine. It's like I can switch my personality either to be fussy or very quite. Yeah, when I surrounded by talkative people, usually I become quite and be a listener because I am afraid of misunderstanding. But, when I am in my inner circles or hang out with quite people I can be very fussy and don't care people will be get it wrong or offended by my words..

I believe we born to be good persons. There is no person who is planned to be bad since he born in a state of purity. I can easily know weather someone try to make a sentence looked bias and caused misunderstanding but I usually keep quite because I don't want to be dominant that may ruin the relationship. Actually it is a bad habit; keep quite means you  agree to make it bias that will caused problems in future. See? I told you I have bad communication because I want to "please" everyone around me altough I know it is going to be difficult.

I don't want to blame people who loves to give bias information because I don't have any rights to judge people so I will corrected myself first. There are some tips originally made by me about how to comunicate well with people.

1. Think before Speak
          It is very useful to reduce the probability of missunderstanding when communicate with people. It will make words from your mouth arranged.
2. Ask!
          When you don't really understand, just ask like kids ask their parents why bird can fly. As simple as that.
3. Repeat the Statement
          Repeate means make sure that you and your partner have same perception about the information.
4. Get to Know
          Sometimes, misunderstanding is not only caused by bad communication but also different style of speaking. You should get to know each other especially about their background or how they usually mention something that is not really common for you. Yeah, maybe it will strange at first, but you will get used after that.

Okayy that's all my post about communication. I wrote this based on my restlessness because people nowadays always connected with social media that can trigger misunderstandings. I hope this could be useful for you that have same problem with me.

Good night!