YOUCAN EMPOWER LOMBOK 2017! (2/3): Mendure

Been a week in Mendure was amazing!

From left to right (Kak Glenn, Bagus, Kak Ima, Ryan, Dadan,
Kak Reyhan, ME, Kak Uni, Kak Nining, Kak Dyah
Kak Ardina, Dimas
Kak Laili (blur ): )

Since the first day, we were treated like "kings" by people there, when actually we want to mingle in the society. The girls volunteer stayed at Kak Uni's house, while the boys stayed at one of elders's house. In Mendure, a bathroom inside a house is very rarely, include at our houses. There are some bathroom build by some people scattered at some locations for all people in the village. Don't be surprised, if you want to shower you have to go around the village looking for an empty bathroom. Usually we had our favorite bathroom, so we can scramble the bathroom and the loser had to find another bathroom. But, IF you are lucky, you will be invited to shower at her/his house with bathroom inside because the house owner were kind and feeling pity at you.

Most of people in Mendure are farmers of rice and tobacco. As you can see from our selfie picture above, February is perfect month for rice because it was rainny season, right? Rice paddy need lots of water to grow up! In fact, it's not too rainy in Mendure. The weather was pretty good to dry your laundry, just took 2 hours from 10 AM-12 PM! Moreover, the temperature in Mendure is always above 30 degrees celsius! It only happened once a heavy raining on the last day during the farewell ceremony :(

Move on from the weather and livelihood, I will tell you about Mendure's all time favorite beverage: LOMBOK COFFEE! Yeah, Inaq-Inaq in Mendure love to serve coffee for guests like us. They were pounding and blending the coffee with their own recipe. I don't drink coffee, but the other volunteers said the coffee was really good and unique. Maybe because the coffee blended with rice pounding that increased the flavors. In the last day, some of my friends ordered to inaq-inaq to make coffee because they want to buy some kilos of Lombok Coffee! I think they've been addicted with the coffee after a week non stop consuming caffeine XD

caffeine time with guava and rempeyek

By the way, I've been talking about children in Mendure on my previous post. Yeah, they are so lovely. After dhuhur prayer, we held our programs and mostly our target is children. While their parents were busy on the farm, we taught them how to turn garbage into useful things, the important of clean and healthy lifestyle, and the spirit to dare to reach their dreams! Kak Uni said, the children were very excited about our programs. They even had their own "Kakak favorit". I will tell about Kakak Favorit later. Anyway, the pictures below were about the kiddoss!

I was using bahasa mixed with Sasak little bit while explaining to the kids 

Beside their cuteness, the children in Mendure are very religious. After Ashar prayer, usually they went home, took a bath, and went together to Masjid in the different village before magrib. Actually there was a mushola in their village. But, they don't have any ustadz or ustadzah to teach them read Al Qur'an in that mushola. The high learning spirit of the children eventually making them accustomed to go to the Masjid even though the distance is far.

Saw this problem, finally we asked for permission to teach the children read Al Qur'an after Magrib prayer for a week. After reading Al Qur'an, usually we help the children to make their homework.This is also being one of our unexpecting program, so they didn't have to go that far to learn qur'an and enliven their mushola too.

my dream when I was in elementary school was beeing a teacher LOL

In that mushola, we made a mini library from a small unused room in the mushola that is being our main goal to increase their reading interest. We called it "PERPUS KANCIL". PERPUS KANCIL  stands for Perpustakaan Pustakawan Cilik. Beside many books for the children, there is a section for writing their dreams inside the PERPUS KANCIL, called "Aku Mele Jari" means "I Wanna Be". They wrote their dreams in the notes then sticked it all. We were advised them to always keep this library and keep those dreams by being Agen Kancil. Agen Kancil is a team that will look after this library although we (kakak-kakak) are not there. The children were very excited to be Agen Kancil. Again, I want to thank you for those books donation because it means a lot for the children in Mendure.

YOUCAN EMPOWER LOMBOK 2017! (1/3) : Adaptation

Before this year ends, I finally decided to open my little diary and share my  volunteering experience in Lombok Island on last February. It was our promise as volunteers in YOUCAN EMPOWER deployed into 4 regions in Indonesia (Lombok, Labuan Bajo, Raja Ampat, and Lebak Muncang) for posting at least a writing or vlog in this digital era. And I just realized that I haven't share anything yet after almost a year since I came back from Lombok Island!


Besides keeping promise, in fact I do really miss people in Mendure, a small village in Lombok where I stayed for a week--especially the children! So, I tried to recall those memories and immortalize them in writing. Enjoy my story :)

We are YOUCAN EMPOWER 2017!

After passing a long selection (administration, interview, and survival test in Yogyakarta) to be part of YOUCAN EMPOWER Volunteer, here we are 9 volunteers for Lombok Island. Actually there are 12 volunteers but 3 of them couldn't make it due to academic duties. It's quite difficult at first to discuss about our programs because we are seperated by distance. Luckily there are 2 volunteers from Malang, Dimas and Kak Reyhan. We met several times with the other volunteers from Malang but deployed in different regions. I think met them really help me especially in preparation because you have friends who had same problems where you can ask to discuss anytime.


What you need to prepare before volunteering in a region you never visited before is all about mindeset. Volunteering is different with vacation. That's why we had to pass a survival test in Yogyakarta (part of YOUCAN EMPOWER Selection) before deployed. We had to make a research about the village in economics, education, and health. Then, we arrange the programs and timeline. But remember, the expectations usually is different with reality, so we should be flexible with our timeline and programs. To avoided bad things, we always stay in touch with the committee of YOUCAN EMPOWER until the D-DAY, because one of them, Kak Uni is natives of Mendure.


Mendure, a small village in Central Lombok was our destination on February 23th. The preparation was complicated because everyone had their own way. Dimas, Kak Reyhan, and I from Malang still had not book tickets 2 weeks before the D-DAY. The definition of "ruwet karepe dewe". After all of dramas and confusions, I was so excited after finally arrived at Lombok International Airport. Because it's my first time traveling without my family and almost alone if I don't have same friend with same destination. Fortunately, Dimas also departed form Surabaya so we took same flight, while Kak Reyhan from Jakarta to Lombok.

believe me there is an airplane in front of me! YOLO!

My first impression about Lombok is.... HOT! Quite different with Malang or Batu, East Java. Not so long after we arrived at Lombok International Airport, The YOUCAN EMPOWER Committee, Mbak Ima picked us by car to the Mendure Village. Our driver is from Lombok Island, called Mr. Z. He was very nice and told us some daily language and histories about the orgin meaning of Lombok. "Lombok is not chilli literally. Lombok in Sasak means straight, true or commonly interpreted honest, plain, or in other words commonly defined Fitrah," he Said.

Ookaay.


It took an hour until finally Mr. Z stop the car in front of a small gate. And here we are... Mendure Village!

As the first timer or newbie in volunteering, I was trying to adapt with people here. They are using Sasak Language like Mr. Z told in the car. Amaq for Sir, Inaq for Maam. Tabeq for excuse me.
"Tabeq Inaq," I said it with extra smiles when I met some of women welcomed us because finally I can practie this language with the natives LOL. And those women smiled to us and said, "Tabeq."

Inaq-inaq

FYI, Kak Uni said that Sasak Language is diverse by the villages. Not by provinces, BUT VILLAGES! It means, in the different village, there will be different structures or vocabulary used as language, but still Sasak. Beside Kak Uni and Kak Ima as committee, there were Kak Nining and Kak Bagus, YOUCAN members who also help us especially for language translator and accomodation. Kak Uni, Kak Nining, and Kak Bagus are students of University of Mataram, so they will help us to adapt here.


After all of the volunteers arrived, villagers held a welcoming ceremony and eat together.. The welcoming ceremony attended by village officials and religious leaders. Some girls, include Kak Uni were dressed in traditional clothes to welcome us, while the men was preparing the food to eat together. It's so unique for me, because in Mendure men were so helpful and not prestige to prepare the food. Most of food here are spicy so I couldn't take too much. Beside that, the eat portions are extra large. Such a culture shock for me because everyone can finished their food include the girls! Not only that, we don't use any spoon to eat something like soup :( So we had to use our hand skill to get the soup :(

welcome ceremoy

a portion without spoon :(

took photos with village officials

Maybe I was bad at adaptation with Mendure dishes, but there's something I suddenly like in Mendure at the first sight, the children! I like to went arround in Mendure Village. Everytime I went, there will be children follow me like they want to get to know me and the other volunteers. Actually, I used to hate kids because they are so annoying for me. But once I met them, they were so lovely! They taught me and the other volunteers Sasak Language, and I taught them Javanese. Amazing! They were so innocent and sincere until I don't have any reason to don't like them :)

From this event, actually I am so grateful because I can love kids more than before LOL. Maybe it is because they are using different language from me and I think that's cool to learn Sasak. That makes us (me and those children) good friends. But, I realized that I just stayed a week there and it would not be easy to say goodbye after that :(

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I think I should end this Part 1 here. It is still the beginning of journey. There will be lots of unique cultures and amazing children I met in Part 2 and 3. What's gonna happen next? Were we facing many obstacles during the empowering programs? Will there be more drama? LOL.

Cheers!

Emma

COMMUNICATION

Actually, I am bad at communication.

“The biggest problem for humanity, not only on a global level, but even for individuals, is misunderstanding.” ~Rinpoche

College life has taught me how to communicate with different persons every single day. Sometimes there are some of them who are the ambitious type having conversation to reply only or just to show their existence. I can't blame it because it depends on their personality traits. Some of them who are the calm type just give less verbal communication because they said to me it's hard to express their emotion or feelings. The worst is people who are trying to make missunderstanding when speak.

People said I am a fussy or maybe talkative person. Fussy person is used to related with good communiation skill.  I just smiled because they don't know what inside me is. It was just another side of mine. It's like I can switch my personality either to be fussy or very quite. Yeah, when I surrounded by talkative people, usually I become quite and be a listener because I am afraid of misunderstanding. But, when I am in my inner circles or hang out with quite people I can be very fussy and don't care people will be get it wrong or offended by my words..

I believe we born to be good persons. There is no person who is planned to be bad since he born in a state of purity. I can easily know weather someone try to make a sentence looked bias and caused misunderstanding but I usually keep quite because I don't want to be dominant that may ruin the relationship. Actually it is a bad habit; keep quite means you  agree to make it bias that will caused problems in future. See? I told you I have bad communication because I want to "please" everyone around me altough I know it is going to be difficult.

I don't want to blame people who loves to give bias information because I don't have any rights to judge people so I will corrected myself first. There are some tips originally made by me about how to comunicate well with people.

1. Think before Speak
          It is very useful to reduce the probability of missunderstanding when communicate with people. It will make words from your mouth arranged.
2. Ask!
          When you don't really understand, just ask like kids ask their parents why bird can fly. As simple as that.
3. Repeat the Statement
          Repeate means make sure that you and your partner have same perception about the information.
4. Get to Know
          Sometimes, misunderstanding is not only caused by bad communication but also different style of speaking. You should get to know each other especially about their background or how they usually mention something that is not really common for you. Yeah, maybe it will strange at first, but you will get used after that.

Okayy that's all my post about communication. I wrote this based on my restlessness because people nowadays always connected with social media that can trigger misunderstandings. I hope this could be useful for you that have same problem with me.

Good night!