The Real Happiness Is...

Welcome May!

OMG it's almost a half year of 2016 ! Time flies so  fast it's like yesterday was still January 1st. Yeah, if you agreed with that statement, means you were enjoyed your days so much. Although it's a good or bad days, you still be grateful from what you have learned from that. One of many lessons I've learned until almost a half year of 2016 is about the real happiness. Yeah, I want to share my thinking about happiness.

Based on the duration, we can devided happiness into 2 big groups: the short term happiness and the long term happiness. So, which one is the real happiness?

are you happy?

Some people are easy to find the short term happiness but the others look for the long term happiness. Well, when someone says they are happy they mean they are satisfied with their life and that they are experiencing a preponderance of ‘pleasant’ emotions, such as contentment, pleasure, joy, enthusiasm and delight (and relatively few ‘unpleasant’ emotions). I call this type of happiness as ‘normal’ happiness. This could be long term happiness but also give short term effect too because the happiness will be decerased by the time.

It is very much connected to what is going on in your life. If your relationships are going well, you have good score at college, great time management, full saved in the bank, your health is good and you are successful at what you do, the chances are you will experience normal happiness. 

The clue that define you are happy is conditional upon certain things being the way you want them to be. If you are made redundant unexpectedly or your friend is upset with you and your sense of happiness and well-being disappears, you know that the happiness you were experiencing was normal. Usually, when we focus and want to get something instantly, it will be the short term happiness we get. It's like when you want to get promotion from your boss then you cheat means it won't be last longer. Or when you pursue your dreams seriously but you're neglecting your health and your relationship to your parents.... Will it be the real happiness when you can get those dreams?

the happiness outside us

One I finally realized everything which we usually define as happiness is always outside of us. And that's not last longer.

On the other hand, the real happiness is different with ‘normal’ happiness. The real happiness describes a deep sense of inner well-being, peace and vitality with you most of the time in most circumstances. People who experience real happiness, feel a deep sense of gratitude for simply being alive. Unlike normal happiness which comes and goes and is dependent on certain things happening, real happiness is independent of our life situation. This doesn’t mean you don’t feel anger, or sadness or fear. The real happy people have the ability to feel those emotions deeply and fully, but they don’t lose sight of themselves as they do, they remain aware and present to their thoughts and emotions without getting caught up in them.

But, is experiencing true happiness simply a case of changing our thoughts, being kind and living mindfully as some experts suggest? My experience is this – they are all important and all have a part to play, but alone they simply aren’t enough to experience the real happiness. 

my real happiness

Anyway, let me know if this post makes you happy or not. Feel free to share you comments. Cheers!